The Art and Science of Stuffing Up Your Life

Helena Phillips

 

What to do:

• Give lots of advice That's what friends are for; to give advice. Even if you don't know what you are talking about still give it a go. Don't worry if they (your friends) don't seem to be feeling much different when you've finished, they're not likely to take any notice of you anyway.
• Get your mum to do your banking for you. She is the one who has to get to the bank which saves you time Anyway it gives her something to do and makes her feel involved in your life.
• Fight about sex Fighting about sex can be a bit tricky. Things tend to go really wrong. You say things you really shouldn't say like "if you just lost some weight..." or "if you weren't so frigid...." or "you're just a selfish pig!" People should just know that you didn't mean it.

 

About the Author

Helena Phillips (MA) has been a psychologist/psychotherapist, writer and teacher for over thirty years. She is a Master Clinician with the Australian Association of Relationship Counsellors and currently edits the Newsletter Couplings. Publications include "The Place in Between: living and relating with passion" Vivid Publishing (2011). Helena writes for the column 'Practice Wisdom' in the journal "Psychotherapy in Australia".